simplestepmom

Once again, nothing is simple in a blended family. Ha! Why should the holidays be any different? Listening to those stepmoms I’ve talked to recently, the holidays create a lot of tension. Every family has the bustle of family gatherings, making plans for the holidays, adding extra to our schedules and taking extra from our bank accounts.

Add to that the blended family stress: Already feeling the pinch of child support and then comes the financial stretch of the holidays. Most blended families have a pattern for handling where the children will spend the holidays….but someone always wants to change it at the last minute, right? No one is in the mood for compromise at that point.

If your child is not spending Christmas day with you, how are you handling it? When will you celebrate with the child? We usually handle this by celebrating when he comes home after Christmas. This year we are trying something new….celebrating BEFORE Christmas! After Christmas, stepson is always tired from several celebrations already, it feels like we are putting Dad last, and we all have to hear what he’s already received and our own family celebration is very diminished. This year we are being proactive! We are celebrating the weekend he will be home before Christmas, before everyone is tired, not waiting for Dad to go last. We’re having a meaningful family celebration together. I’ll let you know how it goes and how we felt about it!

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